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I realize it has been a long time since I have regularly posted. I had originally planned on 2016 being the year that I got into it again. Yet, it was actually the year of the dumpster fire.
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Now that we are in the holidays, things have been a little sad, but I have an awesome husband who takes care of me. Things are picking back up, we are starting the slow tread back out of debt and I couldn’t be happier relationship wise.

I think I am going to try and post at least once a week. There have been many topics in last few weeks I wanted to go in depth with, but I think I let the depression get to me. If things work out, between now and January 1st I will have a wrapup post about everything in 2016 (as a cathartic event) and maybe a post on my goals in 2017 on what I want to accomplish. I don’t think I want to do them in the same post, no cross contamination please.

This week however was great. Hubby cooked me an awesome dinner comprising of the most tasty ham you could ever have, followed by mashed potatoes, glazed carrots and raisin bread. We still have a large store bought pumpkin pie today. This is on top of a previously wonderful Thanksgiving dinner with turkey, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce and stuffing with misc things.

So overall the holidays are pretty awesome considering everything else.
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Normally the holidays are a bit stressful from me. Usually my parents would be behind a rock and a hard place cash wise. I would have screaming nephews and nieces who need presents and my siblings are doing whatever they are doing. This doesn't even include the hubby and I's personal holiday celebrations. So stress during the holidays was normal (along with a huge cash hit).
Although the holidays can be great too.
Although the holidays can be great too.

Fast forward to this year and I found that it has been stressful last couple of weeks. My sleep pattern has shifted negatively (common during this time of year), and I know I have been raw emotionally in reacting to people. However it is different then previous years.
I am sure my sleep apnea doesn't help.
I am sure my sleep apnea doesn't help.

Today we went shopping for Thanksgiving for the first time after my parents passing. It's funny I will go for a bit of time without thinking about them now, but the shopping for Thanksgiving specifically brings back the awkward holidays. Fortunately the drinking ended years ago, but there was always a need for us to spend about $100 extra to feed the rest of the family. I didn't begrudge my parents, but the rest of the family was a little harder.

Combine this with the last minute requests from my mom was definitely always a stressful time in the holidays. Don't take it as something I hated, I loved holidays with my parents, even if we constantly threatened we weren't going to do it the next year. Last year we followed through on our threat and did something different. We had catered thanksgiving with just the hubby, myself and both parents and it was fantastic. Even dad said it was probably the best thanksgiving in a decade. Funny enough, it was also cheaper to cater it for four people than to provide just our portion of the overall homemade Thanksgiving dinner.

The hubby and I have always talked about what it would be like when the holidays were ours. It was always a far off thing, and even at the start of this year we assumed at least another four or five years before things happened. Well that wasn't how it progressed at and with both parents gone in six months we went from full family to a hard off. We have no intention on meeting with siblings and extended family (the deaths of both parents, but especially dad really tore some holes in those relationships).

The idea of just staying home, enjoying the hubby's food (and my baking of course) and just watching tv/playing video games was so entrancing. Especially during those years when we did both families and the nightmare of hubby's parents then to my parents.

So we were wandering around Winco shopping and I was struck with a weird sense of anxiety mixed with sadness. For the first time in a month I had stepped into the grocery store and pulled out my phone automatically as if I was going to call my parents and ask them what they needed for thanksgiving. I caught myself and went back to wandering the aisles with the hubby.
Hubby traversing the wilds of WInco.
Hubby traversing the wilds of WInco.

We wandered through the place, picked up a whole lot of groceries for thanksgiving. I wasn't necessarily sad, just more nostalgic that I wasn't picking up stuff for our old trip to Bellingham. We got to the cash register and it was almost $100 cheaper than we normally expect for holidays.

So we came away from Winco and I feel a little bad. I miss my parents and I assume my anxiety will get worse before it gets better. But I am really looking forward to just spending time with the hubby as well.

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